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Thursday, March 18, 2010
Earn Easy as 1, 2, 3
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Many web site owners put affiliate programs on their site as a kind of ‘by the way” offer: “By the way, this service is available if you should need it, and here is a convent link. Most people are not going to be able to quit their job by sponsoring one or two affiliate programs, no matter how well they do.
Some people may be able to manage more, but it’s best to build only one or two streams of income at a time and then add additional programs as you are able. Make sure the affiliate programs you choose complement your existing business rather than detract from it or distract site visitors.
One of the best examples of an exciting affiliate program is Income-Web.com. The best part is that it’s free. This site specializes in wealth-building strategies, video training programs. Income Web program is a very good and safe method to monetize your visitors.
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Sunday, June 14, 2009
Three Key Elements in Helping a Person to Deal with Trauma
Trauma is a term that defines a response to an extraordinary event. It is a response to an event that overwhelms the individual’s coping resources, making it difficult for him or her to function effectively in society. Traumatic situations are those in which the person is rendered powerless and where great danger is involved. Trauma generally includes events involving death and injury or the possibility of death or injury. The word trauma is generally used to include both natural catastrophes and man-made violence.
A person suffering from trauma is usually left with intense feelings and sensations that negatively influence his or her mental well-being. These feelings and sensations make it difficult for that person to resume his or her normal, everyday activities.
In order to deal with trauma, it helps to understand the broad psychological effects of trauma. These vary according to the victim’s beliefs, expectations, and assumptions about the world.
R. JanofBulman asserts that the experience of trauma shatters four basic healthy assumptions about the self and the world: the belief in personal invulnerability; the view of the self as positive; the belief that the world is a meaningful and orderly place and that events happen for a reason; and the trust that other human beings are fundamentally benign.
These four assumptions allow people to function effectively in the world and to relate to others. After an experience of violence, the person is left feeling vulnerable, helpless, and out of control in a world that is no longer predictable. Interventions to deal with trauma, therefore, aim to reframe the trauma so that the individual can see that his or her responses to it are normal responses to an abnormal event.
There are three key elements in helping a person to deal with trauma:
1. Getting the person to talk about what happened to them, to tell their story, in detail. This effectively results in the victim verbalizing a horror and discussing it with someone else, in words and language, renders it less fearsome and less out of control.
2. Reframing the victim’s perceptions of his or her role in the event. Victims often blame themselves or feel guilty, particularly when they feel they could have done something to save a loved one or friend who died in the incident. The victim needs to be reassured that they did the best they could under the circumstances.
3. Development and sustaining coping mechanisms. The victim of trauma will feel powerless and unable to deal with daily life tasks. You need to help them re-establish their coping mechanisms-not by doing things for them but by getting them to develop ways that they can possibly deal with things.
A person suffering from trauma is usually left with intense feelings and sensations that negatively influence his or her mental well-being. These feelings and sensations make it difficult for that person to resume his or her normal, everyday activities.
In order to deal with trauma, it helps to understand the broad psychological effects of trauma. These vary according to the victim’s beliefs, expectations, and assumptions about the world.
R. JanofBulman asserts that the experience of trauma shatters four basic healthy assumptions about the self and the world: the belief in personal invulnerability; the view of the self as positive; the belief that the world is a meaningful and orderly place and that events happen for a reason; and the trust that other human beings are fundamentally benign.
These four assumptions allow people to function effectively in the world and to relate to others. After an experience of violence, the person is left feeling vulnerable, helpless, and out of control in a world that is no longer predictable. Interventions to deal with trauma, therefore, aim to reframe the trauma so that the individual can see that his or her responses to it are normal responses to an abnormal event.
There are three key elements in helping a person to deal with trauma:
1. Getting the person to talk about what happened to them, to tell their story, in detail. This effectively results in the victim verbalizing a horror and discussing it with someone else, in words and language, renders it less fearsome and less out of control.
2. Reframing the victim’s perceptions of his or her role in the event. Victims often blame themselves or feel guilty, particularly when they feel they could have done something to save a loved one or friend who died in the incident. The victim needs to be reassured that they did the best they could under the circumstances.
3. Development and sustaining coping mechanisms. The victim of trauma will feel powerless and unable to deal with daily life tasks. You need to help them re-establish their coping mechanisms-not by doing things for them but by getting them to develop ways that they can possibly deal with things.
Coping with Sadness
People feel many different things. They can feel happy, afraid, mad, or sad. These feelings are called emotions. Sadness is an emotion.
Everybody feels sad once in a while. Sadness does not make you feel good. When you are sad, you do not want to smile or be with other people.
To cope with sadness, experts recommend the following:
1. We should know the difference between sadness and depression, because these need to be dealt with differently. In his book “Passion and Reason” Bernice Lazarus states that sadness is not depression, though it is often confused with it.
2. We should allow ourselves to be sad, and to cry if we feel like crying-suppressing tears may do more damage than good. We should schedule sadness time and let the tears flow freely (though this may seem like an odd thing to do). We should also understand that crying is not a sign of weakness, but instead this can be one of strength. With more serious issues we can allow ourselves to mourn for a longer period of time. The key is to really deal with our emotions in an effective manner.
3. If we are feeling sad, we should think about the context of the sad feelings. Are they related to a loss? If it isn’t we may be in trouble and should seek professional help right away.
The following can help us recover from sadness:
A. Schedule time to observe our thoughts and feelings.
B. Listen to soothing music.
C. Try to be one with nature: go for walks on a beautiful pathway or around a lake, or go on fishing or hiking trip.
D. Confide in a trusted friend. Sometimes a listing and sympathetic ear is al that may be required.
If you are feeling sad about a particular event, I suggest you start writing your thoughts down. You might be amazed to discover how therapeutic this activity can be. If you are afraid that others may read your journal, type your thoughts on your computer instead and use a password to protect your document. This way you can write more freely-it really works for me.
Everybody feels sad once in a while. Sadness does not make you feel good. When you are sad, you do not want to smile or be with other people.
To cope with sadness, experts recommend the following:
1. We should know the difference between sadness and depression, because these need to be dealt with differently. In his book “Passion and Reason” Bernice Lazarus states that sadness is not depression, though it is often confused with it.
2. We should allow ourselves to be sad, and to cry if we feel like crying-suppressing tears may do more damage than good. We should schedule sadness time and let the tears flow freely (though this may seem like an odd thing to do). We should also understand that crying is not a sign of weakness, but instead this can be one of strength. With more serious issues we can allow ourselves to mourn for a longer period of time. The key is to really deal with our emotions in an effective manner.
3. If we are feeling sad, we should think about the context of the sad feelings. Are they related to a loss? If it isn’t we may be in trouble and should seek professional help right away.
The following can help us recover from sadness:
A. Schedule time to observe our thoughts and feelings.
B. Listen to soothing music.
C. Try to be one with nature: go for walks on a beautiful pathway or around a lake, or go on fishing or hiking trip.
D. Confide in a trusted friend. Sometimes a listing and sympathetic ear is al that may be required.
If you are feeling sad about a particular event, I suggest you start writing your thoughts down. You might be amazed to discover how therapeutic this activity can be. If you are afraid that others may read your journal, type your thoughts on your computer instead and use a password to protect your document. This way you can write more freely-it really works for me.
Saturday, June 13, 2009
Tips To Manage Your Own Anger
The biggest challenge for most pit bulls in becoming confrontable may be managing their own anger. Understanding your anger is the first step.
The practical, popular psychologist Dr. Joyce Brothers, in an interview, summarized the research about anger management. Understand, she stressed, that your own anger is all about fear, especially the fear of exposing something about yourself and the fear of losing control.
When you feel anger, before exploding, ask yourself of what or whom you are afraid. What might you lose in the encounter? How might you be hurt? Knowing the real, underlying reason may help you control your anger.
Next, suggests Dr. Brothers, don’t ignore your anger, but don’t express rage inappropriately. There was a time when people thought it healthy to immediately express their anger. More recent, however, suggests that constant ventilating actually makes us more angry rather than less. The most accepted theory is to assume a middle ground between exploding and suppressing anger. Follow these tips, Dr. Brothers suggests:
1. Don’t ignore your anger, but don’t immediately blow up.
2. Count to ten.
3. Direct your anger at the proper person.
4. Deal with the issue at hand; don’t bring up old issues.
5. Confront the person in private.
6. Stay calm; act calm.
7. Don’t smile-smiling can be viewed as mocking and can increase anger.
8. Use “I” statement, i.e., “I don’t want you to throw away my papers without asking,” rather than “You have no respect for my things.”
9. Wait for their explanation.
10. Offer understanding (let them save face).
If counting to 10 doesn’t work, Dr. Brothers suggests you count to 100! If you can manage your anger so that you’re confrontable, and if you encourage skillful confrontation in your own organization, you can move from defending and debating to listening and learning. You can evolve from debate to dialogue. You will have taken another giant step on the road to unleashing the power of a good fight.
The practical, popular psychologist Dr. Joyce Brothers, in an interview, summarized the research about anger management. Understand, she stressed, that your own anger is all about fear, especially the fear of exposing something about yourself and the fear of losing control.
When you feel anger, before exploding, ask yourself of what or whom you are afraid. What might you lose in the encounter? How might you be hurt? Knowing the real, underlying reason may help you control your anger.
Next, suggests Dr. Brothers, don’t ignore your anger, but don’t express rage inappropriately. There was a time when people thought it healthy to immediately express their anger. More recent, however, suggests that constant ventilating actually makes us more angry rather than less. The most accepted theory is to assume a middle ground between exploding and suppressing anger. Follow these tips, Dr. Brothers suggests:
1. Don’t ignore your anger, but don’t immediately blow up.
2. Count to ten.
3. Direct your anger at the proper person.
4. Deal with the issue at hand; don’t bring up old issues.
5. Confront the person in private.
6. Stay calm; act calm.
7. Don’t smile-smiling can be viewed as mocking and can increase anger.
8. Use “I” statement, i.e., “I don’t want you to throw away my papers without asking,” rather than “You have no respect for my things.”
9. Wait for their explanation.
10. Offer understanding (let them save face).
If counting to 10 doesn’t work, Dr. Brothers suggests you count to 100! If you can manage your anger so that you’re confrontable, and if you encourage skillful confrontation in your own organization, you can move from defending and debating to listening and learning. You can evolve from debate to dialogue. You will have taken another giant step on the road to unleashing the power of a good fight.
Tuesday, June 9, 2009
Coping with Jealousy
In her book, A New Look At Love, Elaine Walster describes jealousy as having two basic components: 1. a feeling of battered pride, and 2. a feeling that one’s property rights have been violated.
Margaret Mead observes that the shakier one’s self-esteem, the more vulnerable one is to jealousy. Jealousy records the degree of insecurity. It is a negative, miserable state of feeling, having its origin in the sense of insecurity and inferiority.
Sociologist Kingsley Davis provides a fascinating analysis of jealousy: “There are thus two dangers which beser any person with regard to property. The first is that somebody will win out over him in legitimate competition. This is danger of superiority rivalry. The second is that somebody will illegitimately take from him property already acquired. This is danger or trespass. Most malignant emotions are concerned with these two dangers, being directed either at a rival or trespasser or at someone who is helping a rival or trespasser.
Controlling Jealousy
Elaine Walster recommends the following steps to jealous feelings:
1. Try to find out exactly what it is that is making you jealous. Usually, you can pinpoint something specific about the situation which is bothering you. Two key questions to ask are: What was going on in the few moments before you started to
feel this way? And, What are you afraid of? Family therapist Larry Constantine lists several situations that often trigger jealousy. Feeling that you’re no longer number one, and everyone knows it. Feeling upset because you can’t predict what’s going to happen. Thus, the first step is to try to understand what you feel and why you feel this way.
2. Try to put your jealous feelings in perspective. Be in touch with what a rational component is and what an irrational one is. Force yourself to consider each jealously-arousing situation more realistically. You can gain even more control if you can manage to change the situation.
3. Negotiating a Contract. Once you know exactly what makes you jealous, you can begin to negotiate; that is, bargain with yourself to find a balance in hopes of becoming more comfortable with the situation.
In his book, Being and Doing, Eric Morris suggests these valuable ideas to help us overcome envy: “Try imagining that each of us is climbing our own mountain and that each mountain has its unique obstacles. If you can think about your journey as being unlike anyone else’s, you will stop comparing yourself to others. Make a list of all your daily activities and pick out those cause you to waste time feeling envious of others and replace them with more productive involvement.
Next time you notice that you are putting someone down or feeling bitter about your place in life, ask yourself just what you are accomplishing.
Margaret Mead observes that the shakier one’s self-esteem, the more vulnerable one is to jealousy. Jealousy records the degree of insecurity. It is a negative, miserable state of feeling, having its origin in the sense of insecurity and inferiority.
Sociologist Kingsley Davis provides a fascinating analysis of jealousy: “There are thus two dangers which beser any person with regard to property. The first is that somebody will win out over him in legitimate competition. This is danger of superiority rivalry. The second is that somebody will illegitimately take from him property already acquired. This is danger or trespass. Most malignant emotions are concerned with these two dangers, being directed either at a rival or trespasser or at someone who is helping a rival or trespasser.
Controlling Jealousy
Elaine Walster recommends the following steps to jealous feelings:
1. Try to find out exactly what it is that is making you jealous. Usually, you can pinpoint something specific about the situation which is bothering you. Two key questions to ask are: What was going on in the few moments before you started to
feel this way? And, What are you afraid of? Family therapist Larry Constantine lists several situations that often trigger jealousy. Feeling that you’re no longer number one, and everyone knows it. Feeling upset because you can’t predict what’s going to happen. Thus, the first step is to try to understand what you feel and why you feel this way.
2. Try to put your jealous feelings in perspective. Be in touch with what a rational component is and what an irrational one is. Force yourself to consider each jealously-arousing situation more realistically. You can gain even more control if you can manage to change the situation.
3. Negotiating a Contract. Once you know exactly what makes you jealous, you can begin to negotiate; that is, bargain with yourself to find a balance in hopes of becoming more comfortable with the situation.
In his book, Being and Doing, Eric Morris suggests these valuable ideas to help us overcome envy: “Try imagining that each of us is climbing our own mountain and that each mountain has its unique obstacles. If you can think about your journey as being unlike anyone else’s, you will stop comparing yourself to others. Make a list of all your daily activities and pick out those cause you to waste time feeling envious of others and replace them with more productive involvement.
Next time you notice that you are putting someone down or feeling bitter about your place in life, ask yourself just what you are accomplishing.
Five Steps for Handling Personal Criticism
By criticism I don’t mean helpful and constructive feedback, but rather mean-spirited destructive behavior. Criticism may come from enemies, competitors, colleagues, superiors, our team, the community, and even our family. Today there are those who suffer physically and emotionally because of things that were said about them. Others have just cracked down under the strain. Then there are those who dread facing meetings for fear of criticism. Many have just resigned because they cannot deal with it.
Handling Personal Criticism
1. Thank the person for the feedback
Express your gratitude to this person for saying something. It is difficult to change yourself if you are not aware of your mistakes, and someone has just offered you an external glimpse at your behavior. It may sometimes be more appropriate to start with an apology rather than a thank you or to apologize without any thanks.
2. If you have made a mistake, admit it
It also may be helpful to begin by admitting that you’ve made a mistake. Tell the other person, “You’re right”. You lose nothing by doing this. If you admit your mistakes, it helps to avoid fights as well.
3. Apologize if appropriate
Obviously, a strong apology will mean a lot to someone who is close to you. Apologies are a major impetus to forgiveness. If we apologize well, it allows the other person to more easily forgive us.
4 .Take steps to improve
You may need to be reminded more than once to make improvements. It is possible you will have to analyze you pattern to find out if some fundamental conflict rests underneath it.
5. Enlist the other person’s help to monitor your progress
Monitor your progress. You may need to ask the person criticizing you to help you make long-term changes. Encourage him or her to remind you whenever you engage in this particular behavior. Share the fact that you want to change but that without feedback it is difficult to do so. You are now in partnership with them. And whenever you repeat this behavior, you can use a slightly modified Ronald Reagan line, “There I go again. I’m so sorry. And thanks for reminding me”. Humor always helps.
Handling Personal Criticism
1. Thank the person for the feedback
Express your gratitude to this person for saying something. It is difficult to change yourself if you are not aware of your mistakes, and someone has just offered you an external glimpse at your behavior. It may sometimes be more appropriate to start with an apology rather than a thank you or to apologize without any thanks.
2. If you have made a mistake, admit it
It also may be helpful to begin by admitting that you’ve made a mistake. Tell the other person, “You’re right”. You lose nothing by doing this. If you admit your mistakes, it helps to avoid fights as well.
3. Apologize if appropriate
Obviously, a strong apology will mean a lot to someone who is close to you. Apologies are a major impetus to forgiveness. If we apologize well, it allows the other person to more easily forgive us.
4 .Take steps to improve
You may need to be reminded more than once to make improvements. It is possible you will have to analyze you pattern to find out if some fundamental conflict rests underneath it.
5. Enlist the other person’s help to monitor your progress
Monitor your progress. You may need to ask the person criticizing you to help you make long-term changes. Encourage him or her to remind you whenever you engage in this particular behavior. Share the fact that you want to change but that without feedback it is difficult to do so. You are now in partnership with them. And whenever you repeat this behavior, you can use a slightly modified Ronald Reagan line, “There I go again. I’m so sorry. And thanks for reminding me”. Humor always helps.
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